Steer Clear of the Non-Communicators

Let’s get straight: if communication isn’t happening, neither is the relationship.

We’ve all been there—on the edge of our seat, waiting for a text back, decoding a vague message, or wondering if the awkward silence means something (spoiler: it does). And if you've gone through a divorce, chances are communication—or the lack thereof—played some part in the unraveling. So why repeat the cycle?

Let’s call it what it is: non-communicators are exhausting.

These are the folks who leave you on read, dodge anything that remotely smells like vulnerability, and treat emotional conversations like landmines. They'll say, “I’m just not good at talking about feelings,” as if that’s an endearing quirk, not a red flag waving like a matador’s cape.

Here’s the thing: in this post-divorce, self-aware, taking-no-BS chapter of your life, communication isn’t a bonus—it’s the baseline.

You deserve someone who picks up the phone, not someone who ghosts until it's convenient. You deserve clarity, not breadcrumb texts or cryptic “u up?” messages at midnight. You’ve already done the emotional labor of trying to pull words out of someone. You’re not a therapist or a mind-reader—you’re a human wanting a real connection.

Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, emotional safety, and (you guessed it) communication. That means checking in, saying, “Hey, this bothered me,” or “I liked spending time with you,” without it turning into a three-act drama or disappearing act.

So, cut the cord if you find yourself chasing clarity, wondering what they meant, or feeling like you're talking to a wall.

You’re not asking for too much. You’re asking the wrong person.

Trust me: life after divorce is too short and full of potential to waste on people who can’t speak and say how they feel.

Communicate or keep it moving. That’s the new rule.

Block out those you are scared of communication - sadly, that seems to be the theme on repeat for many folks.... know there is someone out there that wants to communicate with you ...you just haven't found them yet.

It will be worth it in the long run. No respect, means steer clear.

Cheers,

Erin