In any relationship, trust is the foundation that holds everything together. The glue keeps two people bonded, cherishing their love, and growing together. However, when lies seep into that foundation, it can unravel the entire fabric of the relationship. Let’s explore the detrimental effects of liars in a relationship and guide how to handle these trust breakers. The Art of Deception: Lying within a relationship can take many forms - from small, seemingly harmless white lies to significant betrayals. Regardless of the magnitude, lies can erode the trust between partners and create a toxic environment. When one person chooses to deceive, it creates a power imbalance, fostering resentment, insecurity, and doubt. Consequences of Lying: The impact of lying in a relationship is far-reaching and often profound. The deceived partner might experience a loss of self-esteem, questioning their worthiness and attractiveness. Trust is fragile, and once broken, it can be challenging to rebuild. Frequent lying may lead to emotional distance, resentment, and a relationship breakdown. Understanding the Reasons Behind the Deception: To address the issue of lying in a relationship, it is first essential to understand the deception's motivations. Liars often resort to dishonesty to avoid conflict, protect themselves, or maintain a false persona. Recognizing these underlying issues can help both partners navigate towards a healthier, more honest future. Open Communication is the key to healing: Rebuilding trust is a slow and delicate process, but it starts with open communication. The deceived partner must express their hurt, while the liar must take responsibility for their actions and show genuine remorse. Honesty should become the cornerstone of every conversation, and both partners must be willing to listen and understand each other's perspectives. Setting Boundaries: Open communication is necessary, but couples must also establish boundaries to prevent further breaches of trust. Discussing expectations and agreeing on acceptable behavior can help rebuild a sense of security. Limits can range from sharing passwords and accounts to seeking therapy to address underlying issues. Seeking Professional Help: Rebuilding trust after lies can be a long and challenging journey. Seeking the guidance of a professional therapist can provide valuable insight and strategies. A trained therapist can help couples navigate emotions, improve communication, and develop healthier behavior patterns. Forgiveness and Moving Forward: Forgiveness is not easy, but it is essential for the healing process. Both partners must be willing to forgive, while the liar needs to demonstrate genuine change through their actions. Rebuilding trust takes time, but with consistent effort, creating a stronger, more honest foundation is possible. Lying in a relationship can be devastating, but it doesn't have to be the end. With open communication, understanding, and a commitment to change, couples can work through the pain and rebuild trust. Remember, a relationship built on lies is fragile, but honesty and trust can withstand any storm. Be careful, and please be honest out there, Erin Time to Dish: Have you flat-out lied to your partner? Has your partner flat-out lied to you? How did this make you feel? Did you resolve this issue, or did you call it quits? If you stayed, how in the world did you build trust back?

When a relationship ends, it's natural to feel uncertain about love. However, the human heart has an incredible capacity to heal and to love again. Whether you're experiencing love for the first time after a divorce or a painful break-up, there are sure signs that can indicate you're falling in love again. This blog will explore these signs, helping you recognize and embrace the journey of rediscovering love. Emotional Openness: Being emotionally open is one of the surest signs of falling in love again. After a divorce or break-up, feeling guarded or even skeptical about new relationships is normal. However, when you find yourself willing to trust and open emotionally to someone new, it can signify that love is again blooming within you. Excitement and Anticipation: Have you noticed that you eagerly await to see or hear from someone special? Feeling excited and having a sense of anticipation about spending time with them strongly indicates that love may be knocking on your door. These feelings can reignite the spark and remind you of the joy of being in a loving relationship. Fear of Vulnerability: Although falling in love can be exhilarating, it also makes us vulnerable. If you fear vulnerability again, it's a sign that you may be in the early stages of falling in love. The fear of getting hurt is a natural response to past experiences. Overcoming this fear can lead you to new experiences and the possibility of a fulfilling relationship. Empathy and Compassion: Another sign of falling in love again is empathizing and feeling compassion towards another person's experiences and emotions. Love has a way of softening our hearts and igniting kindness within us. If you notice yourself genuinely caring for someone's well-being and being there for them, it may be a sign that love has resurfaced in your life. Inner Growth: Falling in love after a divorce or break-up often happens when we have undergone significant inner growth and self-reflection. When we have introspected our past relationships and learned from them, we become more self-aware and capable of making healthier choices moving forward. If you find yourself evolving and becoming more conscious of your desires, it's a promising sign that love is returning to your life. Rediscovering love after a divorce or break-up is both exciting and transformative. The signs we discussed - emotional openness, excitement, fear of vulnerability, empathy, compassion, and inner growth - serve as guideposts along this path. Remember, every person's experience of falling in love is unique, and it's essential to trust your intuition and listen to your heart. When the time is right, love will find its way back into your life, bringing the potential for a beautiful and fulfilling connection. Embrace the opportunity and allow yourself to experience the profound joy of falling in love again. Have fun out there, Erin Time to Dish: · Have you found love again? · How did you know? · What is love at first sight? · Or did this love develop over time? · Any tips you can share with our readers?

As the spouse of an alcoholic, life can be a rollercoaster ride. One minute, your partner may be loving and attentive; the next, they could stumble through the door, slurring their words and causing chaos. It's a challenging and emotional experience that can leave you feeling isolated, hopeless, and frustrated. But it's important to remember that you are not alone, and help is available. Living with an alcoholic partner can be incredibly challenging, both for themselves and for those around them. Not only can alcoholism take a physical and emotional toll on the individual, but it can also cause relationships to deteriorate and families to break apart. It can leave spouses feeling alone, helpless, and, at times, embarrassed about their partner's behavior. However, it's important to remember that alcoholism is a disease, and your spouse's actions are not entirely within their control. If you are married to an alcoholic, it's essential to understand that you have choices. You can choose to stay, you can choose to leave, or you can choose to seek help and support. Whatever decision you make, taking care of yourself and setting boundaries that will protect you emotionally and physically is essential. One of the most important things to remember is not to enable your partner's behavior. You should avoid covering up for them, making excuses, or trying to fix their problems. Helping only makes the situation worse by allowing your partner to continue drinking and avoiding the consequences of their actions. It's also essential to seek support for yourself. This may include contacting close friends or family members, joining a support group, or seeking therapy. While it may feel embarrassing or difficult to talk about your partner's alcoholism, your mental health needs to be able to vent and express your feelings with someone who understands. Additionally, consider seeking professional help for your partner. This may include attending therapy, joining a recovery program, or seeking treatment at a rehabilitation center. It's important to remember that while you may be supportive, ultimately, it is your partner's responsibility to decide to seek help and make changes. Living with an alcoholic partner is not easy, but it's important to remember that you are not alone. Many resources are available to help you navigate these difficult times, and taking care of yourself emotionally and physically is essential. Remember that you have choices and that seeking support and setting boundaries are crucial steps toward creating a healthy and happy life for yourself. Many groups offer support here are a couple: Al-Anon SAMHSA If you are suffering from an alcoholic spouse or partner, please seek help today. We need to keep you mentally safe and stable.

Do you ever need to scream break-up songs at the top of your lungs? If so, here is a new playlist for your favorite streaming app. Here are some of our Divorcee Dish favorites: · "Total Eclipse of the Heart" by Bonnie Tyler · "Every Breath You Take" by The Police · "I Will Always Love You" by Whitney Houston · "Against All Odds (Take a Look at Me Now)" by Phil Collins · "Don't You (Forget About Me)" by Simple Minds · "Careless Whisper" by George Michael · "The Winner Takes It All" by ABBA · "Alone" by Heart2 · "Love Bites" by Def Leppard · "I Want to Know What Love Is" by Foreigner3 · "Someone Like You" by Adele · "We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together" by Taylor Swift · "Irreplaceable" by Beyoncé · "Since U Been Gone" by Kelly Clarkson · "Cry Me a River" by Justin Timberlake · "I Will Always Love You" by Whitney Houston · "Don't Speak" by No Doubt · "Tears Dry On Their Own" by Amy Winehouse · "Somebody That I Used to Know" by Gotye ft. Kimbra · "The Scientist" by Coldplay · "Bleeding Love" by Leona Lewis · "Love Yourself" by Justin Bieber · "Stay with Me" by Sam Smith · "Before He Cheats" by Carrie Underwood · "We Belong Together" by Mariah Carey · "Thank U, Next" by Ariana Grande · "Forget You" by CeeLo Green · "You're Beautiful" by James Blunt · "I Hate You, I Love You" by gnash ft. Olivia O'Brien · "OOOUUU" by Young M.A. · "I'm Not the Only One" by Sam Smith · "In the End" by Linkin Park · "Gives You Hell" by The All-American Rejects · "Broken" by Lovelytheband · "I Will Survive" by Gloria Gaynor · "Go Your Own Way" by Fleetwood Mac · "Heart of Glass" by Blondie · "You're So Vain" by Carly Simon · "Breaking Up Is Hard to Do" by Neil Sedaka · "I Can't Tell You Why" by Eagles · "Always on My Mind" by Elvis Presley · "Don't Go Breaking My Heart" by Elton John and Kiki Dee · "Love Will Keep Us Together" by Captain & Tennille · "Baby, I Love Your Way" by Peter Frampton

Going through a divorce is a mixed bag of feelings for everyone involved, especially children. They may have numerous questions and concerns about the changes happening in their family dynamics. Kids ask lots of questions, and these may happen immediately or down the road as they process their reality. We have curated a list of possibilities: 1. Why are Mom and Dad, or Mom and Mom, or Dad and Dad getting divorced? This is one of the most common questions children ask. It's important to provide age-appropriate explanations and reassure them that the decision is not their fault. Emphasize that you have grown apart and that the divorce has nothing to do with their love for the child or children. Let them know that you want them to express their feelings about the situation with either of you. 2. Will I still see both of you? Children worry about losing contact with one or both parents after a divorce. Reassure them that they will continue to have a relationship with both parents. Explain the custody arrangement or, for kinder, gentler words, their new schedule (note see our blog on schedules) in a way that they can understand and let them know that both parents still love and care for them. 3. Will you get back together? Children may hold onto hope that their parents will reconcile. Be honest but gentle in your response, explaining that sometimes people decide they are happier apart. Assure them that both parents will always be there for them, even though they won't live together. This is a big one. Children may not at first ask this; it could be days or months, but in my situation, it was years later – that one of my children asked, would you be happier married to Daddy? Or are you ever getting back together? The problematic answer (unless you plan on reconciling) – is a simple reinforcement of the word “No.” NOTE: do not say probably not, or that’s a possibility. Children take this to heart and find hope when you will disappoint them later. Followed by our family is still family, though we live apart. We both love you unconditionally, and we grew apart and feel that this is the best way for us to be happier as we get older. 4. Is it my fault?: Children often blame themselves for their parents' divorce. It's crucial to emphasize that it is not their fault and that the decision is solely between the parents; explain that sometimes adults must make hard decisions to become better parents. Again, reassure them they are loved unconditionally, regardless of the divorce. 5. Will we have to move? Children may worry about changes in their living situation. Be open and honest about any potential moves, explaining the reasons behind them. Assure them that their well-being is a priority and that both parents will work together to create a stable and loving home for them. This is another one because no matter what, the person who moves out is the person who is to blame for this situation at hand, even though, most times, it is a mutual decision. Tread carefully on this topic and get the children involved in picking out their room, colors, and more. 6. Can I still have holidays and celebrations? Children may fear that divorce will disrupt family traditions and special occasions. Reassure them that holidays and celebrations will still be cherished and that new traditions can be created post-divorce. Show them that both parents will make efforts to create positive memories. Some families find new traditions, and some children are old enough to want traditions to stay the course. At any rate, please set expectations for the child due to the fact they are holding on to the past (which is totally fine); however, establishing new or modified traditions is key. 7. Will you stop fighting? Divorce often arises from conflicts, which can be distressing for children. Assure them that although the parents will no longer be together, they will strive to maintain a peaceful and respectful co-parenting relationship. Emphasize that their well-being is prioritized. Let’s say, in other words, there was no fighting but so much tension you could cut through it with a knife. This is the hardest to explain because, in a child’s mind – no fighting means you are/were happy with your partner. As adults, this is tough; focus on the part you grew apart, and you want each other to be satisfied in the long run. 8. Can I see my friends and pets? Kids may worry about losing connections with friends and beloved pets due to changes in living arrangements. Reassure them that their relationships with friends and pets will be maintained and they will still have opportunities to spend time with them. Also, remind them they can make new friends at one of their new homes. 9. Is it normal to feel sad or angry? Validating a child's emotions is crucial during this difficult time. Let them know that it is entirely normal to feel sad, angry, or confused about the divorce. Encourage open communication and let them know that their feelings will be acknowledged and supported. Answer as many questions as you can, however, be completely honest; kids are so intuitive that they will read right through you. Also, tell them you feel that way sometimes; it's expected we are all human. 10. Will you get remarried? Children may have concerns about their parents moving on and finding new partners. Be open to this question and explain that it is possible, but reassure them that the child will always be loved and cared for. Though you may find a new partner to spend the rest of your life with and realize the kids may love or hate them. Try as hard as you can to make this a smooth transition and slowly integrate your new partner. Understanding the questions and concerns that children often have during a divorce is essential in supporting them through this challenging time. Responding with empathy, honesty, and reassurance can help alleviate their worries and ensure they feel loved and secure throughout the process. By addressing these top 10 questions, parents can foster a sense of stability and understanding in their children as they navigate the complexities of divorce. We hope this helps you at least begin the conversation with your kids. Yours truly, Erin Time to Dish: · What type of questions have you received? How did you answer them? · Do you have a cordial relationship with your ex? If not, this is hard to navigate, but list some ways that could help this transition. · There is often trauma in a divorce situation; if the kids have seen this – they may ask more detailed questions. How will you answer?

Being a single parent is no easy task, but adding multiple children can sometimes feel like a never-ending juggling act. Balancing work, household chores, and the needs and demands of each child can wear down even the most patient of individuals. As a single parent, I understand the challenges and the toll it can take on your patience. One of the most overwhelming aspects of being a single parent to multiple kids is the constant need to divide your attention and time. Each child has unique needs, from homework help to emotional support, and it's often a daily struggle to ensure that everyone feels heard and valued. This can lead to exhaustion and frustration, especially when there aren't enough hours in the day. Another aspect that can wear down on your patience is the never-ending cycle of responsibilities. As a single parent, you must be the caregiver, the disciplinarian, the chauffeur, the cook, and the emotional support system, all rolled into one. The sheer number of tasks that need to be done can often leave you feeling overwhelmed and stretched thin. It's easy to lose patience when you're already burnt out. Parenting multiple kids as a single parent also means dealing with sibling conflicts and rivalries. Arguments over toys, attention, and personal space can become daily occurrences, testing your patience to the limit. As the sole parent, finding the time and energy to mediate these conflicts and teach your children valuable life lessons about cooperation and empathy can be challenging. On top of all these challenges, single parents often face financial and emotional strains that can further impact their patience levels. The stress of managing finances on your own and the emotional toll of needing a co-parent to share the responsibility can leave you feeling frayed and less patient than you would like to be. But despite all these challenges, being a single parent to multiple kids is also incredibly rewarding. It teaches you resilience, strength, and the ability to adapt to any situation. It allows you to form a deep bond with your children, as you are often each other's lifelines. So, how do you navigate the wear and tear of your patience as a single parent to multiple kids? It's important to remember a few key strategies. First, take care of yourself. Prioritize self-care and ensure you have outlets for stress relief, whether it's pursuing a hobby, seeking support from friends or family, or even just finding moments of solitude. It's also crucial to communicate openly with your children. Let them know you value their feelings and concerns, even if you can't always fulfill every request. Please encourage them to express themselves and help them understand the importance of compromise and understanding. Finally, don't be too hard on yourself. It's okay to feel overwhelmed, frustrated, and even impatient. Parenting is challenging, and being a single parent to multiple kids makes it even more so. Permit yourself to embrace imperfection, and remember you are doing your best. Breathe, Erin Time to Dish: · What do you practice to help you maintain your patience? · Do you take time to breathe? · What can you do to improve? · Have you reached out to someone to help?

Domestic Violence Awareness Month is an annual campaign held in October to raise awareness about domestic violence, provide education, and support survivors. Understanding the warning signs of domestic violence and how to support those affected by it is crucial. This blog will explore what to look for during Domestic Violence Awareness Month and discuss ways to assist survivors. Recognizing the Signs: · Physical Signs: Bruises, cuts, or other unexplained injuries are often visible signs of abuse. Additionally, frequent absences from work, social isolation, or controlling behavior by a partner may indicate domestic violence. · Emotional Indicators: Keep an eye out for significant changes in mood, low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, or signs of fear, like a survivor constantly appearing on edge or fearing their partner's reaction. · Isolation and Control: An abusive partner might intentionally isolate the survivor from friends and family, control their finances, or limit their access to resources such as transportation or communication. · Verbal and Psychological Abuse: Emotional abuse can include constant demeaning comments, threats, intimidation, isolating the survivor from social activities, or gaslighting, where the abuser manipulates the survivor into questioning their reality. Supporting Survivors: · Active Listening: Create a non-judgmental space for survivors to discuss their experiences. Listening without interruptions or offering advice can be immensely valuable for survivors seeking support. · Validate Their Feelings: Affirm that the survivor's feelings are valid and that they are not alone in their struggle. Let them know that the abuse is not their fault and that seeking help is a sign of strength. · Offer Resources: Familiarize yourself with local helplines, shelters, counseling services, and support groups. Provide survivors with information and access to these resources, ensuring their safety and well-being. · Safety Planning: Collaborate with survivors to create a personalized safety plan. Assist them in outlining steps to protect themselves when they feel threatened or decide to leave the abusive relationship. · Advocate for Change: Educate yourself and others about domestic violence by participating in awareness campaigns, sharing information on social media, and supporting organizations working to end domestic violence. During Domestic Violence Awareness Month, looking for signs of domestic violence and supporting survivors is essential. Recognizing the warning signs and helping can create a society where domestic violence is no longer tolerated. Remember, small gestures of support can make a profound difference in a survivor's life, empowering them to break free from the cycle of violence and find safety, healing, and hope. Time to Dish: · Do you or do you know anyone who is a victim of domestic violence? · How are you doing? · How are you supporting the others you know? · Do you know where to report domestic violence? Get help here: https://www.thehotline.org/ Or by calling 800-799-7233

I have always wanted to debate this topic. I am not sure it does anymore, especially now that I am closer to my 50s. Love knows no boundaries, or so the saying goes. But when it comes to age, does it matter? This question has sparked countless debates and discussions among individuals contemplating relationships with significant age differences. While societal norms often frown upon age gaps, examining the issue without bias and considering the factors contributing to a successful partnership is essential. One of the main arguments against age differences in relationships is the perceived difference in life stages. It is often claimed that individuals at different stages of their lives will struggle to connect and find common ground. While it is true that age can bring differing perspectives and life experiences, it does not mean that connections cannot be established. Mutual interests, values, and shared goals can bridge any supposed gap and create a solid foundation for love to flourish. Another concern is the potential power dynamics that may arise in relationships with significant age differences. It is essential to acknowledge that power imbalances can exist in any relationship, regardless of age. It is not age that determines the power dynamics, but rather the individuals involved and how they choose to navigate the dynamics of their relationship. Open communication, equality, and respect are essential in any partnership, regardless of age. Critics of age-gap relationships also tend to focus on the potential for differing levels of physical and sexual compatibility. While it is true that individuals may have varying levels of energy and sexual drive at different stages of life, this is not exclusive to relationships with age differences. Compatibility in these areas can be addressed through honest communication, understanding, and a willingness to compromise. It is crucial to remember that a number does not bind love. Many successful relationships have thrived despite significant age differences. Love transcends age, and what truly matters is the connection between two individuals and the effort they put into nurturing their relationship. However, it is essential to approach relationships with age differences cautiously. Open and honest communication is vital. Each individual should express their thoughts, concerns, and expectations openly. It is crucial to ensure that both partners are on the same page and have a mutual understanding of what they want from the relationship. In the end, age is just a number. It should not dictate the success or failure of a relationship. Love is a complex and beautiful emotion that can flourish between individuals regardless of their age. What is essential is mutual respect, shared values, and a solid emotional connection. Let's learn to embrace love without judgment or preconceived notions. Age is just a tiny part of who we are, and when it comes to love, it should not restrict our possibilities for happiness and fulfillment. Love should always be based on genuine feelings and shared compatibility rather than societal expectations. So, does age matter in a relationship? It is up to each individual and their partner to decide. Love knows no boundaries, and as long as both individuals are committed to their journey together, age becomes nothing more than a footnote in their love story.

You are divorced and want to ask someone for a date….but hold up. Take your time. Once you feel ready to start dating again, asking someone out can seem intimidating. But remember, there is always time to find love and companionship. Here are some tips on how to ask someone out after your divorce: 1. Take Time to Heal: Before asking someone out, make sure you have taken the time to heal and process your emotions after your divorce. Give yourself time and space to reflect on your past relationship, allowing yourself to grieve if needed. It's essential to be healthy before pursuing a new romantic connection. 2. Build Your Confidence: Divorce can shake your confidence, but it's essential to recognize your worth and value. Focus on self-care and self-improvement to rebuild your self-esteem. Engage in activities that make you feel good about yourself, such as exercising, pursuing hobbies, or spending time with supportive friends. Remember that confidence is attractive, and it will make asking someone out much more accessible. 3. Identify What You're Looking for: It's crucial to understand what you're looking for in a new relationship before asking someone. Take some time to reflect on the qualities and values that are important to you. Assess what went wrong in your previous marriage and think about what you want to avoid in the future. This clarity will help you find someone who aligns with your goals and desires. 4. Socialize and Expand Your Network: Expanding your social circle is one of the best ways to meet new people. This can involve joining clubs and organizations or taking up a new hobby. Attend social events, parties, or gatherings where you can meet like-minded individuals. Building new connections and friendships will increase your chances of meeting someone you want to ask out. 5. Start with a Casual Approach: When you feel ready to ask someone, begin with a casual approach. Avoid putting pressure on yourself or the other person for a serious commitment immediately. Initiate a conversation, show genuine interest in their life, and focus on building a connection. This will allow both of you to get to know each other and determine if there is potential for a romantic relationship. 6. Be Honest About Your Past: When you feel comfortable doing so, being open and honest about your divorce is essential. Please share your story with your potential partner, explaining what you have learned from the experience and how it has shaped you. Being transparent about your past will help build trust and ensure that you both enter the relationship with a clear understanding of each other's history. 7. Take Rejection Positively: Rejection is a natural part of dating, and it's essential not to take it personally. Remember that everyone has their preferences and experiences that shape their choices. If someone declines your invitation, graciously accept their response and move on. Remember that rejection is not a reflection of your worth but rather an opportunity to find someone who is a better match for you. 8. Enjoy the Moment: While being mindful of your past and future goals is essential, living in the present moment is equally important. Enjoy getting to know someone new, experiencing new connections, and having fun. Embrace the excitement and possibilities of dating after divorce, and don't put too much pressure on the outcome. Asking someone out after a divorce can be intimidating, but it can also be an excellent opportunity for personal growth and finding happiness again. Remember to take your time, be confident, and communicate openly. Enjoy the journey and have faith that the right person will come along when the time is right. Be patient, Erin Time to Dish: · If you have already asked someone out, how long did you wait after your divorce? · How did it feel? · Was there a connection? If not, that is ok. · What do you really want from dating after divorce? Make sure you are clear about it.

Depression is a mental health condition that affects millions of people worldwide. It is characterized by prolonged sadness, hopelessness, and a general lack of interest or pleasure in activities. While some individuals may have ongoing symptoms, there are instances when depression can come on unexpectedly, seemingly out of nowhere. This can make it even more challenging to cope with, as it catches you off guard. If you are experiencing depression that hits out of nowhere, here are some steps you can take to help manage it: 1. Recognize and acknowledge your feelings: The first step in dealing with depression is recognizing and admitting that you are experiencing it. Be honest with yourself and accept that it is okay to feel this way. Remember, you are not alone in this; depression can affect anyone, regardless of background or circumstances. 2. Reach out for support: It is crucial to share your feelings with someone you trust, whether a close friend, family member, or therapist. Talking about your emotions and struggles can provide you with a sense of relief and understanding. They can offer support advice and potentially help you identify any underlying causes or triggers for your depression. 3. Practice self-care: Engaging in self-care activities can contribute to your overall well-being and help alleviate symptoms of depression. This could include maintaining a regular sleep schedule, eating a balanced diet, exercising regularly, and practicing relaxation techniques such as mindfulness or meditation. Taking care of your physical and mental health is essential in managing depression. 4. Create a routine: Depression can overwhelm daily tasks but establishing a way can provide structure and stability. It can help you feel more in control and give you a sense of purpose. Start with small, achievable goals and gradually build up to more significant tasks. Celebrate each success, no matter how small it may seem. 5. Seek professional help: If your symptoms persist or worsen, consider contacting a mental health professional. They can provide guidance and treatment options to help manage your depressive symptoms. Therapy, medication, or a combination of both may be recommended based on your needs. 6. Avoid isolation: Depression often makes people want to withdraw from social situations and isolate themselves. While staying in bed or at home may be tempting, maintain connections with loved ones and engage in social activities. Spending time with others who care about you can offer support and help you feel less alone. Additionally, seeking support groups or online communities can connect you with individuals who can relate to your experiences. 7. Practice positive self-talk: Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations and self-compassion. Remember that depression does not define you; you deserve happiness and love. Engage in activities that bring you joy and focus on self-improvement. 8. Be patient with yourself: Recovery from depression takes time and requires patience. Remember that everyone's journey is different; there will be good and bad days. Celebrate small victories and be kind to yourself during the healing process. Remember, seeking help and support is a sign of strength, not weakness. You are not alone, and with the right strategies and support system, you can manage depression and work towards a healthier, happier life. Please reach out to someone if you are suffering from depression. 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish. 988 This is not something to take lightly; do not let it go too far. Peace, Erin

In a fast-paced world where instant gratification seems the norm, it is easy to fall into the trap of rushing into relationships. However, connections are built on a foundation of patience, understanding, and taking the time to get to know someone honestly. We will shed some insight and explore the beauty of hoping to connect with someone while embracing a slower approach. A gentle reminder: slow is so tricky; I can tell you personally, after a few years of trying to connect with someone, I have truly messed up recently, and it cost me what could have been a great adventure. Trusting the Timing When it comes to forming genuine connections, timing plays a crucial role. Trusting the timing means having faith that the right person will come into your life when the time is right. Adopting this mindset releases the pressure to rush into a relationship and allows space for something meaningful to unfold naturally. Patience is key in building a connection that is built to last. Enjoying the Discovery Phase The early stages of getting to know someone are filled with excitement and curiosity. Instead of rushing through this phase, take the opportunity to enjoy the discovery process truly. Allow yourself to engage in meaningful conversations, share experiences, and explore each other's interests. Embrace the uncertainty and the magic of unfolding layers as you build a deeper connection. Building a Foundation of Friendship Friendship is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. By developing a solid foundation of friendship, you are setting the stage for a deeper connection. This means getting to know each other's values, interests, and dreams. Building a friendship first allows you to develop trust, understanding, and admiration for one another, creating a solid base for a stronger connection. Embracing Emotional Intimacy Genuine connections thrive on emotional intimacy. This level of vulnerability cannot be rushed. It requires trust and the willingness to open up one's heart. Instead of forcing emotional intimacy, focus on building a safe and supportive environment where both parties feel comfortable expressing their feelings. By allowing emotional intimacy to develop naturally, you are ensuring a more authentic and meaningful connection. Setting Boundaries and Taking Time for Yourself While it's important to hope for a connection, setting boundaries and taking time for yourself is equally important. It's easy to get swept away in the excitement of a budding relationship, but it's vital to maintain a sense of independence and self-care. Take time to pursue your own hobbies, spend time with friends, and engage in activities that bring you joy. This enhances your personal growth and balances the relationship, ensuring both individuals maintain their sense of self. Trusting the Process The most challenging aspect of hoping to connect without rushing is trusting the process. Relationships are an ever-evolving journey that requires time and effort to grow and flourish. Trust that by taking a slower and more intentional approach, you are allowing something beautiful to unfold. Have faith in yourself and the person you hope to connect with and embrace the unknown with an open heart. Ultimately, the art of hoping to connect with someone while not rushing is an exercise in patience and faith. By trusting the timing, embracing the discovery phase, building a foundation of friendship, embracing emotional intimacy, setting boundaries, and trusting the process, you increase the chances of forming a deep and meaningful connection. Remember, genuine relationships are worth the wait, and the journey is just as important as the destination. Yours truly, Erin Dish Tips: Even though you are excited about the connection - DO NOT PUSH IT Hide your phone from yourself (note I say this because I am one to want to talk probably too much in the beginning due to the excitement of it all) Slow your roll; if its meant to be, it will happen - remember the song by Guns and Roses, "Patience"

Masturbation is a natural and healthy activity that people of all genders and sexual orientations engage in. Despite this fact, there is still a stigma surrounding masturbation, especially when it comes to people who are divorced. However, masturbation after divorce is completely normal and beneficial in many ways. Divorce is a difficult and emotionally challenging process that can leave individuals feeling vulnerable, lonely, and disconnected from their sexuality. In these circumstances, masturbation can serve as a powerful tool for healing and self-discovery. It can provide a healthy outlet for sexual energy and help relieve stress and tension, but it can also help individuals reconnect with their bodies and regain confidence and control over their sexuality. Moreover, masturbation can be crucial to exploring one’s sexuality after divorce. It can help individuals discover sexual desires and preferences that they weren't aware of before and empower them to form healthy, satisfying sexual relationships in the future. Many people consider masturbation to be a regular part of sexual behavior, as it is a very common behavior, even among people who have a sex partner, and is often seen as a safe way to explore one's sexuality [1]. In fact, in one national study, 95% of males and 89% of females reported that they have masturbated [1]. Moreover, masturbation is considered by many experts as a healthy part of sexuality and can have various health benefits, such as reducing stress, improving sleep, and easing pain [2]. Contrary to popular belief, there is no shame in masturbation and no shame in engaging in it after a divorce. It is a natural and healthy way to show oneself love, care, and attention. Divorce can be a painful and often isolating experience, but through self-exploration and self-pleasure, individuals can find comfort and validation within themselves. Let’s embrace masturbation as a natural and essential part of our sexuality. Do not be embarrassed, and embrace your sexuality! Cheers, Erin Sources: https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/masturbation-guide https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/24332-masturbation