Divorce is a life-altering event that brings with it a lot of uncertainty and emotional turmoil. When going through a divorce, it can feel like navigating uncharted territory, and you may find yourself wishing you had known certain things beforehand. There is a thread of 12 things most people wish they knew. Let’s go: 1.  The importance of self-care: Divorce is emotionally draining, and it is crucial to prioritize self-care. Engaging in activities that bring you joy and taking care of your physical health will help you cope with the stress and give you the strength to navigate this difficult period. 2.  Creating a support network: Reach out to friends, family, and even professionals who can support you through this challenging time. Having a solid support network is invaluable during a divorce, providing you with emotional and practical assistance when you need it most. 3.  Understanding the legal process: Familiarize yourself with the legal aspects of divorce before proceeding. Consult a lawyer to understand your rights, responsibilities, and the possible outcomes. Educating yourself about divorce laws in your jurisdiction will help you make informed decisions. 4.  Financial implications: Divorce can have a significant economic impact. Understanding the division of assets, alimony, child support, and other financial considerations will help you better plan your future. 5.  Put your children first: Their well-being should be your top priority if you have children. Shield them from unnecessary conflict and involve them as little as possible in the proceedings. Establish a co-parenting plan that ensures their emotional and physical stability. 6.  The importance of communication: Open and honest communication with your spouse can help facilitate a more amicable divorce process. It may be challenging, but discussing expectations, concerns, and goals can lead to a smoother resolution and reduce unnecessary conflict. 7.  The grieving process: Divorce is a loss, and it is essential to allow yourself to grieve. Give yourself permission to feel a range of emotions and seek therapy or support groups to help you navigate the grieving process. 8.  Finding your identity: Divorce can create a sense of loss and confusion, as it often changes roles and dynamics within a home. Take this opportunity to rediscover yourself, explore new interests and passions, and create a life that aligns with your values and aspirations. 9.  Staying positive: Divorce can be a long and challenging process, but it is crucial to maintain a positive mindset. Surround yourself with positivity, practice gratitude, and focus on personal growth and healing. 10.  Seeking professional guidance: Don't hesitate to seek professional advice from therapists or divorce coaches. They can provide valuable insights and support you in making sound decisions throughout the divorce process. 11. The emotional rollercoaster: Recognize that your emotions will likely fluctuate throughout the divorce process. It is expected to experience anger, sadness, and frustration. Practice self-compassion and give yourself time to heal. 12. The importance of forgiveness: Holding onto anger and resentment will only hurt you in the long run. Explore forgiveness as a means of letting go, finding closure, and moving forward. If you find yourself facing divorce, remember that you are not alone. Seek support, educate yourself about the process, and remember to prioritize your well-being. With time, patience, and self-care, you will emerge more robust and ready to embrace the future from this chapter. You can do this, Erin Time to dish: What is the first thing you learned about divorce that you didn't know? What type of emotions did you experience? Did you get help? Have you found a strong foundation?

In this digital age, texting has become an integral part of our lives, especially in dating. It has transformed the way we communicate and connect with potential partners. However, with this convenience comes a crucial aspect, often overlooked – texting courtesy. Let’s explore the importance of practicing texting courtesy when investigating the dating world to ensure respectful and effective communication. Remember to Be Mindful of Response Time: When conversing with someone you're interested in, it's essential to be mindful of response time. While immediate replies convey enthusiasm, constantly expecting instant responses can create unnecessary pressure for both parties. Everyone has different schedules and obligations, and patience is crucial. Responding within a reasonable time frame shows respect and consideration for the other person's time. Remember, do not feel that pressure of immediate response; it is too much to bear. Engage in Balanced Conversation: Texting is a two-way communication channel, and ensuring that both parties have an equal opportunity to contribute to the conversation is essential. Avoid dominating the conversation by bombarding your partner with texts or monopolizing the topic. Practice active listening, ask questions, and show genuine interest in what the other person says. This helps foster a sense of connection and demonstrates that you value their thoughts and opinions. Be Clear and Direct: Misinterpretation is a common drawback of texting, especially in the dating realm. To avoid confusion and misunderstanding, strive to be clear and direct in your messages. Use proper grammar and punctuation and avoid excessive abbreviations or acronyms that may not be universally understood. Additionally, if you have something important or sensitive to discuss, opting for a phone call or face-to-face conversation is often best to ensure effective communication. Respect Boundaries and Consent: Respecting boundaries and consent should be a priority in all aspects of dating, and texting is no exception. Remember that not everyone may be comfortable engaging in specific conversations via text, especially early in the relationship. Before delving into intimate topics or sharing personal information, establish clear boundaries and ensure both parties are comfortable proceeding. Always obtain consent before sharing any explicit content or engaging in conversations of a sexual nature. End Conversations Gracefully: Just as starting a conversation with grace is necessary, ending it on a positive note is equally essential. If you sense the conversation is naturally coming to an end, avoid abruptly ghosting or ignoring the other person. Instead, end the conversation gracefully by expressing appreciation for their time and reiterate your interest in continuing the conversation later. This shows courtesy and respect and leaves the door open for future communication. In modern dating, texting has become vital to building connections and maintaining relationships. However, it is imperative to remember and practice texting courtesy. By being mindful of response time, engaging in balanced conversation, being clear and direct, respecting boundaries and consent, and ending conversations gracefully, we can navigate the dating world with respect and effectively communicate our intentions. Remember, courteous texting reflects an individual's character and sets the foundation for a healthy and meaningful relationship. Be mindful and honest, Erin

The concept of love has intrigued generations after generations. It is said to be the most powerful feeling in the world. It can make you feel both alive and vulnerable at the same time. But can love be so powerful that it transcends physical appearance? The phrase “love is blind” is a common one that has been used for decades. It implies that when you fall in love with someone, you look beyond their physical attributes and are drawn to their personality and character. You become so enamored with their inner qualities that you overlook their physical flaws. There is some truth to this saying. When you fall in love with someone, their physical appearance may not matter as much as it did when you first met them. You begin to see them in a different light, and your focus shifts to their personality, humor, and intelligence. This does not mean that physical attraction is no longer important, but rather that it takes a backseat to other factors. However, the idea that love is completely blind is not entirely accurate. Physical appearance is still a factor in initial attraction. It is unlikely that someone would develop a deep emotional connection with someone they did not find physically appealing. Furthermore, it is essential to remember that physical attraction is not necessarily shallow or superficial. It is an instinct that has evolved. It is also essential to recognize that love is not always enough. Even if you love someone deeply, it is important to consider if you are compatible with them in other areas of life. Relationships require effort and compromise, and love alone cannot sustain a healthy partnership. The idea that love is entirely blind is a myth. While physical appearance may become less important as a relationship progresses, it is still a factor in initial attraction. However, the saying holds some truth in that when you love someone, you look beyond their physical attributes and are drawn to their inner qualities. Ultimately, love is a complex and multifaceted emotion that cannot be reduced to a simple phrase. The way you love someone means you love the person inside and out. What are your thoughts on this subject? Does it seem shallow to need physical attraction? Or can love just be? Let us know, Erin

When I wrote my grandfather’s eulogy, I wrote about how he always welcomed me with open arms and the unbelievable comfort I felt with him. In today’s segmented world, where do you go? Have you ever longed for a place where you could go and feel a sense of belonging and warmly welcomed with open arms? A place where everybody knows your name, and they're always glad you came. It might sound like a line from a” Cheers” TV show theme song, but it embodies a profoundly human desire that resonates with many of us. Imagine walking into a space where the atmosphere instantly feels like home. As you enter the door, all eyes turn towards you, and you're greeted with genuine smiles and familiar faces. The air is filled with laughter, conversation, and community. This is where you want to be, where you want to go, and where everybody knows your name. Why does being known and welcomed with open arms hold such strong appeal? In a world that often feels disconnected and impersonal, this environment offers a refuge from the noise and chaos. It provides a sense of belonging, a haven where you can be yourself. We all long for connection, for deep relationships with others who truly understand and accept us. Finding a place where people know us by name signifies that we are seen, heard, and valued. It tells us that we matter and have a place where we belong. This sense of recognition and acceptance feeds our emotional well-being and allows us to thrive. Think about your favorite coffee shop, a local pub, a park, or an online community. These are the places where people gather, where they create bonds and build relationships. They become a second home, a place where everybody knows your name. It's a testament to the power of human connection and the need for community. Not only does this kind of environment foster personal relationships, but it also creates a supportive network that can positively impact various aspects of our lives. When you feel welcomed and known, you are more likely to grow, explore new horizons, and take risks. The encouragement and support from those around you give you the confidence to pursue your dreams and push beyond your limits. But finding such a place can be challenging. It requires effort and vulnerability. It means putting yourself out there and forging connections with others. Sometimes, it means taking the risk of being known and revealing your true self. Putting yourself out there is so hard in today’s post-Covid world. However, the rewards far outweigh the risks. When you find that place where everybody knows your name, you gain a sense of belonging that can uplift, inspire, and improve your life. Whether it be a small, close-knit community or a bustling city that embraces you, the desire to go where everybody knows your name is a fundamental human longing. It's a reminder that we are social beings who thrive in connection and community. It's an invitation to seek out those spaces and relationships that welcome us with open arms and truly know and appreciate who we are. Wherever you go and whoever you are, remember that you are worthy of being known, loved, and appreciated. Seek out those places where everybody knows your name, and you'll find a sense of home that nurtures your soul and brings joy to your life. Go where everyone knows your name, and embrace the love. Cheers, Erin

We've all experienced the bitter taste of unrequited love at some point. That sinking feeling of being unwanted by someone we deeply care about can be excruciating. Whether it's a man or woman, the emotional rollercoaster of feeling unwanted is a universal experience that leaves us questioning our self-worth, attractiveness, and place in relationships. In this blog, we will explore the various aspects of feeling unwanted and how to navigate through this challenging experience. Understanding the Feeling: Feeling unwanted can stem from various scenarios – one-sided crushes to long-term relationships that have lost their spark. Regardless of the circumstances, the emotional toll is often significant. It can lead to feelings of rejection, self-doubt, and even depression. It's essential to acknowledge that these emotions are valid and natural, but they do not define your worth as an individual. The Impact on Self-Esteem: When we feel unwanted by someone we desire, it's natural to begin questioning ourselves. We analyze our appearance, personality, and actions, searching for flaws that explain their lack of interest. This self-doubt can be detrimental to our self-esteem, often causing us to spiral into a negative cycle. Remembering that someone else's perception of us doesn't determine our worth is crucial. Developing self-compassion and engaging in activities that boost our self-confidence can help us regain our self-esteem. Understanding Rejection: Rejection is a part of life and inevitable in relationships. However, it's essential not to take rejection as a personal attack or a reflection of our values. Sometimes, the lack of interest from a person can be due to their insecurities or preferences, which are beyond our control. It's essential to recognize that we cannot change someone's feelings towards us, and it's healthier to focus on our personal growth and finding someone who appreciates us for who we are. Nurturing Self-Love: We must prioritize our well-being while waiting for someone's love or validation. Taking care of ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally is crucial to healing from the pain of feeling unwanted. Engaging in activities that bring us joy, finding support from loved ones, practicing self-care, and seeking therapy or self-help resources can all contribute to nurturing self-love and moving forward from this emotional hurdle. Moving Forward: Healing from being unwanted takes time and patience. It's important to remember that only some connections we desire will be reciprocated, but this should encourage us to seek love and companionship. Take the opportunity to reflect on the lessons learned, grow from the experience, and open your heart to new possibilities. Remember, every rejection brings us closer to finding someone who truly values and loves us for who we are. Feeling unwanted is undoubtedly one of the most painful experiences we can go through, regardless of whether it's from a man or a woman. However, we must remind ourselves that we deserve love and appreciation. It's okay to feel the pain and sadness, but focusing on nurturing our well-being and self-love is equally essential. By believing in ourselves, embracing our worth, and staying open to new opportunities, we can eventually overcome the feeling of being unwanted and find the love and connection we truly deserve. You are wanted here, Erin Time to Dish: ·      Have you experienced this feeling of being unwanted? ·      Stay true to yourself; if someone doesn’t see how great you are, move on; how will you do this? ·      Have you made someone feel unwanted? Why? Would you do it again? ·      If you have made someone feel this way – did you apologize?

When we think of our grandparents' marriages, we often assume they followed the traditional practice of sleeping in the same bedroom. However, it's essential to recognize that not all couples adhere to this convention. Some of our grandparents may have opted for separate bedrooms or beds. While it may initially seem counterintuitive to a successful marriage, there are certain benefits.  After talking to a friend who said, “My husband and I are sleep-divorced and have a great marriage.”  I thought you knew what? You are not the only couple I know that does that; we all love our sleep. Sleeping in separate bedrooms allows couples to maintain a sense of personal space and autonomy. It acknowledges the individuality within a partnership, fostering an environment that encourages independence and self-care. By having their own space for rest, couples can recharge and nurture themselves, ultimately contributing to their overall well-being. This practice reinforces the idea that a healthy and lasting union is built on the foundation of two fulfilled and content individuals. Sleeping habits can significantly impact an individual's quality of sleep. Factors such as different bedtimes, snoring, or varying sleep preferences can disturb one's rest, leading to sleep deprivation and potential relationship strain. Opting for separate bedrooms can alleviate these issues and promote a better night's sleep for both partners. By prioritizing sleep quality, couples can wake up refreshed, energized, and ready to face the day, positively affecting the overall dynamics of their relationship. Sharing a bedroom means sharing a space where personal habits like reading, watching TV, or working can cause friction or disturbance. Couples may have differing preferences regarding temperature, lighting, or noise, leading to potential conflicts and restlessness. By having separate bedrooms, partners can engage in activities that help them relax without compromising their partner's comfort. This can contribute to a more harmonious living environment and minimize unnecessary disputes. While it may seem counterintuitive, not sharing a bedroom can enhance intimacy. When couples have their own space, it creates a sense of anticipation and novelty when they come together. Spending intentional quality time in a shared bedroom can reignite romantic sparks and deepen emotional connection. It encourages couples to prioritize intimate moments, initiate physical affection, and be more present in each other's company, fostering greater intimacy and passion. Every individual has unique needs and preferences when it comes to sleep. Some may require total darkness and silence, while others may find comfort in ambient noise or soft lighting. Couples can adapt their sleep environment to meet their needs by sleeping in separate bedrooms without compromising their partner's preferences. This adaptability recognizes and respects individual differences, strengthening the bond by encouraging understanding and compromise. While not sleeping in the same bedroom may initially challenge traditional notions of a successful marriage, it's essential to recognize that each relationship is unique. Our grandparents' generation teaches us the value of understanding, compromise, and individuality within a partnership. Respectfully acknowledging personal space and sleep preferences, not sleeping in the same bedroom, can contribute to the longevity and happiness of a relationship. Ultimately, finding what works best for you and your partner and prioritizing open communication, trust, and respect will help build a lasting and fulfilling marriage. Of course, this may not always be true; however, it is something to consider. Our grandparents grew up in a very different time. Again, we are not advocating you jump ship and find a new room; it is just something to consider, and it's OK. Erin Time to Dish: ·      Do you and your partner sleep in the same room? ·      Do you know couples that do not? ·      What are the benefits of your partnership by sleeping in separate rooms?

As I recently had a medical procedure, they asked me – who is your emergency contact? Is it still (insert name)? As I responded to whom I had chosen, I realized, wow, that was a big ask for someone new rather than a relative, best friend, or other. Then, ironically, I ran into a dating profile that gave me a giggle, “Looking for an emergency contact.” In my mind, I thought, I feel ya – me too. All jokes aside, I have a dear friend, and my children are old enough to be my new emergency contact. Choosing someone you can rely upon in a crisis is extremely important. As you think about your new or current emergency contact, here are some things to consider: 1.    Evaluate Existing Relationships: Divorce marks a transition period, making it necessary to reevaluate the validity and reliability of existing relationships. Consider friends, family members, or other close acquaintances who can be trusted to handle sensitive situations and information and provide necessary support. 2.    Prioritize Trust and Reliability: Trust and reliability are crucial when selecting a new emergency contact. Look for someone dependable, responsible, and capable of handling emergencies calmly and efficiently. 3.    Communication and Consent: Before designating someone as your emergency contact, it's essential to communicate your decision with them and ensure they are willing to take on this role. Openly discuss expectations, medical information, and any specific actions they may need to take in emergencies. 4.    Proximity and Accessibility: Consider the proximity and accessibility of your potential emergency contact. I am one of the lucky ones with my parents still living; ideally, it would be them. However, they do not live in the same town anymore. The person you choose should be located nearby or be reachable in a reasonable time frame, especially in situations that require immediate assistance. 5.    Updating Legal Documents: Once you have chosen a new emergency contact, update any legal documents, such as your will, healthcare proxy, or power of attorney, to reflect this change. Choosing a new emergency contact after divorce is an important decision that requires careful thought and consideration. Prioritizing trust, reliability, and open communication is crucial when designating someone as your emergency contact. Similarly, when encountering dating profiles that mention "looking for an emergency contact," it is essential to have open conversations to understand the intentions and expectations. By taking these steps, you can ensure you have a dependable support system and create meaningful connections that align with your needs. Xoxo Erin Time to Dish: Who is your emergency contact?

In a world where traditional dating apps may leave you longing for more, Feeld is here to redefine how people connect and explore their desires. Launched in 2014, Feeld has gained popularity and become a go-to platform for open-minded people looking for unconventional relationships and connections. A friend or two were on it, so exploring was interesting. So, what sets Feeld apart from other dating apps? Let's dive in and explore what this unique platform is all about. Embracing non-traditional relationships: Feeld is designed to cater to individuals and couples seeking various connections beyond traditional monogamous relationships. Whether you're interested in polyamory, open relationships, threesomes, or simply exploring your curiosities, Feeld provides a safe and inclusive space to express yourself without judgment. An inclusive community: Feeld fosters an inclusive environment where people of all orientations and gender identities feel welcome and understood. The app offers a selection of more than 20 gender identities and various sexual orientations, allowing users to express their true selves and connect with like-minded individuals. Connecting with like-minded individuals: Feeld understands that meaningful connections are based on shared interests and desires. The app allows you to create a detailed profile that reflects your preferences, kinks, and intentions, making it easier to find compatible partners. You can browse through profiles, join communities, and chat with potential matches to explore your shared interests and spark connections. Feeld and beyond: While Feeld is widely known for its focus on unconventional relationships, the app still offers a space for those seeking traditional dating experiences. It recognizes that not all users are interested in exploring alternative arrangements and, therefore, provides the flexibility to match with individuals or couples who align with your dating preferences. Discretion and privacy: Feeld values privacy and discretion, which are often crucial when exploring non-traditional relationships. The app lets you control the visibility of your profile, allowing you to stay discreet if necessary. Additionally, Feeld has strict policies to ensure the safety and privacy of its users. So, is Feeld suitable for you? If you're open-minded, curious, and interested in exploring relationships beyond societal norms, Feeld offers a refreshing platform to connect with like-minded individuals. It encourages healthy conversations about desires, preferences, and boundaries, fostering a supportive community where you can embrace your true self. However, it's essential to approach Feeld, or any dating app, with an open mind and realistic expectations. Remember to communicate your boundaries and expectations with potential matches and prioritize your safety and well-being throughout your journey. Whether you are looking for a new adventure, exploring your sexuality, or seeking a non-traditional connection, Feeld provides a unique space to express your desires and connect with others who share your interests. So, why not dive into the world of Feeld and see where it takes you? If you are curious, this is a good one to dig into; quite interesting. Erin

A lot of emotions are involved in getting a divorce; divorce is often associated with negative emotions and difficult transitions. You must recognize that it is also a chance for growth, self-discovery, and, ultimately, a source of happiness. Let’s highlight the joy and bliss you can still attain as a divorcee. Liberation from Unhappiness: An unhealthy or unhappy relationship can sometimes hinder personal growth and happiness. Divorce offers the liberation to break free from toxic dynamics or unsatisfying partnerships. It allows for the pursuit of individual strength, joy, and the opportunity to rebuild one's life on one's terms. Finding the new you: During a divorce, individuals are often forced to reflect on their goals, desires, and needs. This self-reflection brings an opportunity to rediscover oneself and embark on a journey of self-improvement. Divorce can be a catalyst for growth and a chance to redefine priorities, passions, and aspirations. Rebuilding and Reinventing: After divorce, people have the unique opportunity to rebuild their lives in a way that aligns with their newfound identity. This process can be therapeutic, empowering, and full of possibilities. Whether it's pursuing a new career, immersing oneself in hobbies, or even relocating to a new place, the freedom that comes with divorce allows for reinvention and the chance to create a life that brings joy and fulfillment. Stronger Relationships: Divorce often reshapes relationships, not just with the former spouse but also with friends and family. It can foster deeper connections as loved ones rally to provide support during difficult times. Furthermore, divorce can enable individuals to find new friendships and connections with like-minded individuals who share similar experiences, interests, and goals. Increased Emotional Well-being: By prioritizing self-care and personal growth after a divorce, individuals often experience increased emotional well-being. The newfound independence and freedom can lead to a renewed sense of confidence, self-worth, and resilience. With time, divorce can become a stepping stone towards a happier and more fulfilling life. Embracing the happy side of divorce allows individuals to grow, discover themselves, and ultimately build a life that aligns with their happiness and fulfillment. By focusing on the positives, one can move forward with optimism and embrace the transformative journey that lies ahead. Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to grow into the best version of the new you. Erin ·      Time to Dish: ·      What has made you the happiest? ·      How are you evolving into the new you? ·      Do you have anything you could share with other divorcees?

Divorce is undoubtedly one of the most challenging and life-altering experiences a person can go through. It involves the legal dissolution of a marriage and can lead to significant emotional, financial, and social consequences. In this blog, we will delve into the ins and outs of divorce, aiming to provide a comprehensive guide for those considering or currently facing this complex process. Understanding the reasons behind divorce: Divorce can occur due to a wide range of reasons, including communication breakdown, infidelity, financial issues, or irreconcilable differences. Understanding the underlying causes can help individuals gain insight into their situation and make informed decisions. The legal process of divorce: Initiating a divorce involves a series of legal steps, which vary depending on the jurisdiction. Explaining the process of petitioning for divorce, serving divorce papers, property division, child custody, and spousal support will help individuals navigate the complex legal landscape and seek professional advice when needed. Emotional and psychological aspects: Divorce is an emotionally tumultuous experience. Dealing with grief, anger, guilt, and a range of other complex emotions can be overwhelming. Discussing coping mechanisms, seeking therapy, and finding support groups can greatly assist individuals in managing their emotional well-being during this challenging time. Financial implications: Divorce often has significant financial consequences. Understanding the division of assets, debts, pensions, and retirement funds is crucial for both parties. Exploring alimony, child support, and financial planning post-divorce will help individuals make sound financial decisions. Co-parenting and child custody: For couples with children, co-parenting can be one of the most difficult aspects of divorce. Exploring strategies for effective co-parenting, creating parenting plans, and ensuring the child's well-being will be covered in this section. Mediation and alternative dispute resolution: Seeking alternatives to a traditional courtroom divorce can be a more amicable and cost-effective option. Exploring the benefits of mediation, collaborative divorce, and arbitration can give individuals valuable insights into these alternative dispute-resolution methods. Post-divorce adjustments and moving forward: Life after divorce can be a period of adjustment and reinvention. This section will guide rebuilding one's life, managing relationships with children and ex-spouse, and embracing the opportunities that come with a fresh start. Navigating a divorce is a complex and life-changing experience that requires careful consideration. By understanding the ins and outs of divorce, individuals can better prepare themselves and make informed decisions that will shape their future. While divorce can be challenging, it can also be an opportunity for personal growth and the start of a new chapter in life. Do you have a story to share or tips? Please let us know by messaging us on Divorcee Dish! Erin

Here are 10 steps to make this a fantastic year: Reflect on the past year - take some time to journal what went well and what didn't, and learn from both. Set goals for the year ahead - make sure your goals are specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound. Create a plan - break down your goals into manageable tasks and create a plan to achieve them. Prioritize your time - focus on the most important tasks and avoid distractions. Develop new skills - identify areas where you need to improve and seek opportunities to learn and grow. Find a mentor - seek out someone who can guide and support you on your journey. Network and build relationships - connect with others in your industry or community who can help you achieve your goals. Take care of your physical and mental health - make time for exercise, proper nutrition, and self-care. Manage your finances - create a budget and work towards financial stability and freedom. Stay positive and resilient - maintain a positive attitude, learn from setbacks, and keep moving forward. Divorcee Dish crew, let's kick off this year with the best attitude and make it your best year yet. Happy New Year, Erin

The start of a new year often brings a fresh perspective and the opportunity for personal growth and transformation. As a divorcee, embarking on this journey can be challenging and empowering. One powerful tool that can aid you in manifesting what you want in the new year is the practice of manifestation. What are your desires, and how do you get there? Reflect and Release Before you can manifest what you want, it's essential to reflect on your past relationship and the lessons it has taught you. Allow yourself to feel and process any lingering emotions or fears associated with your divorce. Release any negative energy or resentment, as it may hinder your ability to manifest positively. Clarify Your Desires To manifest effectively, you need to define what you want clearly. Take time to articulate your desires and set realistic and achievable goals. Consider various aspects of your life that require attention, such as personal growth, career, relationships, health, and financial stability. Remember, your desires can evolve, so allow yourself the freedom to adapt and refine your goals as necessary. Practice Mindfulness and Positive Affirmations Set the foundation for successful manifestation by adopting a mindset of mindfulness and self-compassion. Practice positive affirmations daily to reprogram your subconscious mind, replacing negative beliefs with empowering ones. Remind yourself of your worthiness, resilience, and ability to create your desired life. Visualize Your Ideal Future Visualization is a powerful tool when it comes to manifestation. Close your eyes and imagine your life post-divorce, filled with joy, abundance, and success. Visualize yourself achieving your goals and experiencing the feelings associated with them. The more vivid and detailed your visualizations, the stronger their impact will be on your subconscious mind. Take Inspired Action Manifestation is not solely about wishful thinking; it requires taking inspired action towards your goals. Break your goals into smaller, actionable steps and create a plan to achieve them. Be proactive and proactive in pursuing opportunities that align with your desires. Trust your intuition and take risks when necessary, knowing that the universe supports your journey. Cultivate Gratitude Gratitude is a powerful mindset that enhances manifestation. Take time each day to express gratitude for your blessings and positive experiences. Focus on the present moment and be grateful for the journey you are on, recognizing the growth and opportunities that arise from your divorce. Cultivating gratitude will attract more positive energy and abundance into your life. As a divorcee, manifesting what you want in the new year is possible and can be immensely empowering. Remember, manifestation is a process that takes time and consistency, so be patient and trust in your ability to create the life you deserve. Here's to a transformative and fulfilling new year as you manifest your desires as a divorced individual! Xoxo Erin Time to Dish: What do you want to manifest in the new year? What’s at the top of your list? Are you taking steps to make this happen? Are you practicing daily affirmations? Manifestation can work, you must stay committed, how will you commit?