Today is Children’s Mental Health Day —a powerful reminder that our children’s emotional well-being is as important as their physical health. As parents navigating divorce, co-parenting, or single parenthood, we understand all too well that transitions like these can stir up big feelings in little hearts. The truth is that divorce doesn’t just affect the adults; it echoes through our children’s lives in ways they may not always know how to express. That’s why it’s up to us to listen more closely, love more loudly, and create space for healing every step of the way. Here’s how we can support our children’s mental health today and every day: Start the conversation. Even if it feels awkward, open the door. Ask, “How are you feeling about everything lately?” Don’t rush to fix it — listen. That safe space might be precisely what they need. Normalize therapy. Kids don’t need to be in crisis to benefit from a counselor. Therapy can help them process emotions in a neutral setting and demonstrate that mental health matters.   Model emotional honesty. You don’t have to pretend everything is perfect. Share (age-appropriately) when feeling sad, stressed, or uncertain. It teaches them that emotions aren’t scary — they’re human. Watch for signs. Sleep, appetite, behavior, or school performance changes may indicate more than just a “phase.” Don’t ignore the red flags. Trust your instincts and seek support early. Keep their world steady. As much as possible, maintain routines and consistent boundaries in both households. Kids thrive on predictability, especially when the rest of life feels uncertain.   Give grace to them and yourself. We won’t always get it right. We’re learning, and they’re learning. What matters is that we keep showing up with love, patience, and open hearts.   Divorce can shake a child’s world, but with mindful, intentional parenting, it can also be a season of growth, resilience, and deeper connection. On this Children’s Mental Health Day, let’s commit to making their mental health a daily priority—not just for today but for a lifetime. You’re doing better than you think. And so are they.

You think you know someone, really  know them. After all, you loved them enough to build a life together, raise kids, maybe plan for forever. And even after things ended, perhaps you still held on to the belief that, deep down, your ex was a good human. Flawed, sure. But decent. Someone you could at least co-exist with. Then something shifts. It might be subtle at first—cold responses, passive-aggressive comments, small power plays. Or it might hit you like a brick wall: manipulation, blame, toxicity. Suddenly, you’re left wondering, Who IS this person?  And more hauntingly, were they always like this, and I didn’t see it? You're not alone in this disorienting realization. I’ve heard from so many of you—people who’ve come out of the other side of divorce and either found peace… or chaos. Some have created beautiful new dynamics with their exes, where holidays are shared, milestones celebrated, and mutual respect reigns—even with new significant others. That kind of healing is incredible, and it’s possible. But for others, that’s not the case. And for people like me, it was  peaceful—until it wasn’t. My divorce was amicable for years. We showed up for each other when it mattered, prioritized the kids, and found a rhythm. Then, one day, someone new entered the picture, and everything changed—not just the logistics or routines but my ex’s entire behavior. It was like I was suddenly dealing with a stranger wearing my ex’s face. It left me wondering: Was this always who he was? Was I wearing blinders the entire time? Accepting that someone you once loved can treat you like the enemy is brutal. It’s even harder when you feel like you're being erased or disrespected, all while trying to protect your children or maintain your sanity. So, let’s discuss how to deal with both sides of the coin because each scenario, whether respectful or chaotic, has its own emotional terrain. 💔 If Your Divorce Turned Toxic: Set firm boundaries.  Don’t fall into the trap of old dynamics or emotional manipulation. Clarity and consistency are your allies. Limit unnecessary contact.  Use communication tools like AppClose or OurFamilyWizard to keep conversations respectful and documented. Don’t expect closure.  Closure often comes from within, not from them. Accept that you may never get an apology or explanation, and focus on healing. Protect your peace.  Surround yourself with people who remind you of your worth. Therapy, journaling, or even just venting with a trusted friend can go a long way. Don’t engage with the new partner.  Resist the urge to match their energy if they’re toxic or fueling conflict. Your silence and grace are louder than anything they can say. 💫 If You’re One of the Lucky Ones: Celebrate it, but don’t take it for granted.   Good co-parenting relationships take effort. Keep checking in, respecting each other’s space, and putting the kids first. Create new traditions.  Shared birthdays or holiday brunches can show kids that love doesn’t have to end with a relationship. Respect new partners.  A peaceful post-divorce relationship doesn’t mean overstepping boundaries. It means co-existing with maturity and mutual respect. Communicate, don’t assume.  Even the best arrangements can be derailed by miscommunication. Stay open, honest, and flexible. Here’s something I always remind myself: Whatever happened between you and your ex during your marriage—that’s between the two of you. However, what happens after  the divorce should still be rooted in respect, especially if kids are involved. And if that respect doesn’t exist, don’t chase it. Please don’t beg for it. Don’t lose yourself trying to make someone else act like decent people. You are allowed to grieve not only the relationship, but the illusion of the person you thought they were. You are allowed to feel confused, disappointed, or even angry. And you're allowed to move forward with your head held high, knowing you did your best, even if they didn’t. Whether you’re co-parenting like a dream team or navigating emotional landmines, know this: You are not alone . There is no one-size-fits-all version of life after divorce. There is only your  version. And you get to shape it, step by step. We love you here at Divorcee Dish and will help you navigate. Cheers, Erin

If there's one event that perfectly mirrors the world of post-divorce dating, it's the Kentucky Derby . It’s fast-paced, full of surprises, and—let’s be honest—a little risky. Sound familiar? Whether you’re sipping a mint julep, donning a fabulous hat, or side-eyeing the cutie in the seersucker suit, Derby Day might be the perfect place to bet… on love. 💕 Love in the Winner’s Circle Let’s set the scene: You’re dressed to the nines, surrounded by the buzz of excitement, the thundering of hooves, and the scent of roses and bourbon in the air. There’s something about the Derby that makes everyone a little more flirtatious and hopeful. And yes, it’s possible to meet someone while waiting in line for a hot brown sandwich or arguing over who’s the better horse—because isn’t that just the new version of foreplay? For those of us who’ve weathered heartbreak and are stepping back into the world of love, the Derby offers a rare chance to feel exhilarated again. It’s not just about the horses—it’s about the magic in the moment. 🎩 Fun Derby Facts for Flirting & Impressing Throw these fun facts out there, and you'll look charming and  informed: The First Kentucky Derby  was held in 1875 —nearly 150 years of tradition and drama. The Mint Julep  is the signature drink. Over 120,000  are served during Derby weekend. If someone buys you one, that’s a Southern “I like you,” or drink enough, and you may say "I love you." The Garland of Roses  given to the winning horse has 554 red roses. And if someone gives you even one? Hold on to ‘em. The race only lasts about two minutes , making it “The Most Exciting Two Minutes in Sports.” (Which is also how we describe texting our ex by mistake.) Hats, hats, hats!  The bigger, the better. It’s not just a fashion statement—it’s a conversation starter. Don’t be afraid to flirt with someone over feathers and fascinators. 🐎 Betting on Yourself First At Divorcee Dish, we know the most significant win isn’t finding love—it’s loving yourself enough to keep showing up. The Derby reminds us that it’s okay to take chances. Some bets pay off. Some don’t. But that doesn’t mean you stop placing them. So this Derby season, whether at Churchill Downs or watching from home in your best floral dress and floppy hat, raise a glass to second chances. And if you do spot a silver fox in linen or a charming smile under a wide brim—go ahead, strike up a conversation. Because sometimes, love shows up when you least expect it—right after the bugle call, right before the horses take off, and just as your heart says, “Let’s try this one more time.” Have fun if you are celebrating!

Divorce is complicated...period...even when amicable at first, it can change over time. Let's face it—you got divorced for a reason. Relationships play into the image, and let's face it - you got divorced for a reason. As all of you know, emotions run high, boundaries get tested, and communication? It can feel impossible. But when kids are involved, communication isn’t optional—it’s essential. Whether navigating tense co-parenting conversations or simply trying to keep track of pickups and payments, having the right tools  can make all the difference. Fortunately, there’s an app for that—actually, there are several. Here are the best divorce communication apps to minimize conflict and maximize clarity. 1. OurFamilyWizard Best for:  Comprehensive co-parenting communication OurFamilyWizard is the gold standard for co-parenting apps. Judges across the U.S. even recommend it. It features: Message boards with a ToneMeter™ (like autocorrect for your attitude) Shared calendar for custody schedules and activities Expense tracking and reimbursement requests A secure info bank for medical records, contacts, and more Pros:  Court-admissible records, easy-to-use interface. Cons:  Subscription required (starts around $99/year per parent) 2. TalkingParents Best for:  Legally documented communication TalkingParents is ideal if you need a fully documented, tamper-proof communication record. It includes: Secure messaging Shared calendar Call and video recording (in premium version) Payment tracking Pros:  Legally sound communication log Cons:  Free version is limited; paid features require upgrade 3. AppClose Best for:  Free scheduling and expense sharing AppClose is a solid free option for co-parents and even extended family members. It offers: Messaging and call logs Custody and event calendar Expense tracking and payment requests via connected bank accounts Pros:  100% free, even the premium features Cons:  Some features (like exporting records) may be clunky 4. Cozi Best for:  Families who want to co-parent without conflict-focused tools Cozi wasn’t built just for divorced families, but it's a great fit. This shared calendar app includes: Shared calendars and reminders Shopping lists and meal planners Journal for sharing moments with the kids Pros:  Family-focused, easy for kids and step-parents to join in Cons:  No built-in messaging or legal documentation 5. 2houses Best for:  International or long-distance co-parents 2houses is a user-friendly platform that helps coordinate everything from scheduling to finances. It includes: Shared calendar and journal Expense tracking Info bank and custody management Pros:  Great for long-distance or international co-parents :   Cons: Subscription required after trial period You don’t have to rely on emotional texts, misread emails, or endless "he said, she said" battles. These apps are built to take the guesswork—and often, the drama—out of post-divorce parenting. Choose the one that best fits your dynamic. Even if your relationship doesn’t work out, your communication can. I just found out about 2 of these and had been using others that didn't cover the entire needs of our family. Also, Communication isn’t just about logistics—it’s about respect, stability, and showing your kids that love can still lead the way. This isn't easy, however, it's a must. Sending positive vibes! Erin

Because Post-Divorce Dating Shouldn't Feel Like a Foreign Language - However, it Does! Dating today isn’t just different — it practically has its dictionary. If you’ve been out of the game for a while, swiping, ghosting, and "situationships" might sound like a foreign language. Don’t worry — Divorcee Dish  has you covered. Here’s your cheat sheet to the Top 12 Dating Terms you need to know before diving back into the dating pool: 1. Ghosting Someone you’re talking to or dating suddenly stops responding without any explanation. One minute, you’re texting about your favorite pizza toppings; the next, they vanish into thin air. Rude? Yes. Common? WAAAY too familiar, as adults, it's been an eye opener to know that people hold their phones in their hand for 12+ hours a day and can't give closure, shame on them. 2. Breadcrumbing Sending enough attention (texts, likes, DMs) to keep you interested — but never committing to anything real. It's like leaving a trail of crumbs without ever planning to share the loaf. 3. Benching Keeping someone on the sidelines while exploring other options. They’re not entirely out, but they’re not first-string either. Think: "You're great! Let’s hang out soon!"  — but they never set a date. 4. Love Bombing When someone comes on strong  at the beginning — nonstop compliments, big promises, over-the-top gestures — only to back off once they have your attention. 🚩 (Big red flag.) 5. Cushioning Flirting with people just in case  your current relationship doesn't work out is emotional bubble wrap—not cute, not healthy. 6. Catfishing When someone creates a fake identity online to trick you, filters are one thing. Fake names, fake photos, fake lives? With AI in the mix, you need to be careful and ALWAYS ask for a last name before things go too far. 7. Situationship More than friends, less than a relationship. You’re doing a couple of things without the label or commitment. Comfortable? Maybe. Confusing? Definitely. 8. Soft Launch Post a subtle hint of your new relationship on social media — maybe a hand, a blurry back view, or a plate from a dinner date —without revealing their identity. It's like relationship sneak peeking . 9. Hard Launch The full-on Instagram debut of your new relationship. Official. Tagging each other. Couple selfies. #Blessed 10. Orbiting After ghosting you, someone still watches all your Instagram stories, likes your posts, and casually lurks online. They're not talking to you, but they’re keeping tabs. Weird? Yes. 11. Zombie-ing When someone who ghosted you suddenly pops back up like nothing happened. "Hey stranger, how have you been?"  (Brain: RUN. ) 12. Red Flag/Green Flag ⚠️  Red flags  are warning signs of bad behavior (like controlling tendencies, constant canceling, or disrespect).✅  Green flags  are signs of healthy, respectful behavior (good communication, accountability, emotional maturity). These are only a few, some familiar and some not; I hope this helps you navigate the latest and greatest. Cheers, Erin

Ah, read receipts — those tiny digital tell-alls that feel like harmless transparency or emotional landmines, depending on who you ask. If you've ever been deep into texting someone new (or old) and they casually drop the line, "Can you turn on your read receipts?"  — you probably felt a little jolt in your chest, maybe even a red flag waving in the distance. And you're not wrong to pause. Because here's the thing: being asked to enable your read receipts is rarely about convenience — it's usually about control. When someone requests it, they ask for access to your replies and response patterns . Did you read it immediately but ignore it? Did you keep them waiting for hours? Did you prioritize other conversations over theirs? It's not just about communication; it becomes a silent scorecard for validation and anxiety. After Divorce, Boundaries Matter Even More If you've experienced a divorce, particularly one marked by control, emotional manipulation, or plain exhaustion, you understand the vital importance of healthy boundaries.  You fought to reclaim your peace. You fought to regain control of your energy. Why surrender small pieces of that power now? You don't owe anyone—whether a date, friend, or even family—an immediate play-by-play of how you manage your time or your emotional bandwidth. Turning on read receipts often feels like inviting someone to judge your silence. And silence, for many of us post-divorce warriors, is not avoidance — it's self-care . What It Means When They Ask Here’s what could be going on underneath the surface when someone asks you to flip that switch: They’re anxious  and want reassurance They’re insecure  and need constant validation They have control tendencies  and want to monitor your engagement They feel entitled  to your immediate attention None of those are your problems to solve. You can understand someone's anxiety without diminishing your comfort zone. You can be a great communicator without being a 24/7 on-call responder. A Graceful Way to Say "No" If you feel put on the spot, here's a simple, non-combative way to respond: "I actually don't use read receipts for anyone. I prefer to reply when I have the time and mental space to be fully present in the conversation." Short. Respectful. Final. And if someone keeps pushing after that? That's no longer a conversation about read receipts — it's about respect. Trust Yourself Post-divorce, you’re rebuilding a life that feels good to you , not rushed. Not guilt-tripped and not monitored. Trust that you don't need to over-explain, apologize, or second-guess your communication style. Protect your peace. Protect your phone settings. Protect your heart. ❤️ Let them feel that insecurity, not you. You can only control what you can control these days – keep your boundaries for your sanity. Has someone done this to you? Tell us more:

Bravery isn’t always straightforward or bold. It doesn’t always come with a cape (well, unless you choose to wear one). Sometimes, it shows up in the quietest moments—when you decide to keep going even though your heart feels heavy and your future uncertain. After divorce, being brave becomes a daily practice. It’s not just about surviving the split—it’s about stepping into who you’re meant to become, one day, one decision at a time. Letting Go Takes Guts Whether your divorce was amicable or earth-shattering, the end of a marriage marks a turning point that requires real courage. It signifies letting go of the life you envisioned, which isn’t easy for anyone. Men and women alike grieve. They second-guess. They fear what’s next. But the brave ones? They move forward anyway, even when their legs feel shaky or don’t have everything figured out. Rebuilding Isn’t Gendered Everyone deserves a second chance at peace, purpose, and perhaps even love. Divorce offers an opportunity to be honest with yourself: What do I want now? Who do I want to be? For some, it means diving into a new career. For others, it’s finally taking that trip, writing that book, or learning to fix the kitchen sink independently. Rebuilding your life is deeply personal, but courage  is the common thread  that keeps everything moving forward. Every day, Courage Counts Bravery after divorce or a breakup isn’t always dramatic. Sometimes, it’s making breakfast for your kids with a smile when you're exhausted. It’s walking into a party solo. It's saying "no more" to toxic patterns or simply learning how to sleep on your side  of the bed again. Those small acts? They matter. They add up. And they show you're stronger than you think. Love (Again or For the First Time) Bravery might mean opening your heart again, going on that awkward first date, letting yourself trust, flirting, and feeling butterflies. But for some, being brave means staying single, loving your own company, and choosing not to rush into something just because it’s expected. Both are powerful. Both are valid. Years Later—Still Brave Divorce doesn’t define you, but the choices you make after it can. Bravery isn’t a one-time thing—it’s a mindset. A decision you keep pushing. To heal. To grow. To protect your peace. To love again—yourself and maybe someone new. So, wherever you are in your journey, this is your reminder: You’re doing brave things very day. And we see you and we love you! xoxo Erin

So you’re back out there. Swiping, chatting, coffee dates, maybe a wine night here or there. You’re putting yourself out into the wild world of modern dating post-divorce. First of all, bravo . That takes guts. But here’s the big question we all start asking (sometimes too early): Are we vibing? Because after divorce, we don’t have time for games, confusion, or decoding someone like it’s the Da Vinci Code . We’re wiser now. Well, hopefully, however, sometimes we are totally not- I've been there. But even with our post-divorce wisdom, figuring out whether there’s a real connection  or just a pleasant distraction  can be tricky. So let’s break it down. The Conversation Flows (Or Doesn’t) When you’re vibing with someone, it’s not just what you talk about—it’s how you speak. Is there an ease? A natural rhythm? Do you both seem genuinely interested in what the other is saying? If you're carrying the conversation like it’s a dead weight and they’re giving you one-word responses (or only talking about themselves), it’s probably a no. A real vibe feels like you’ve known them longer than you have. You Feel Energized, Not Drained This one’s a biggie. Check-in with yourself after a date or phone call: Do you feel excited, curious, and lighter ? Or are you second-guessing everything and suddenly craving wine, chocolate, or your therapist? When we’re vibing, we feel seen. We feel alive. When we’re not, it can feel like an emotional chore. You’re Not Playing Detective When someone’s into you, it shows. You don’t need to overanalyze the tone of a text or how many minutes it took them to respond. If you’re investigating their intentions more than enjoying the experience, that’s your sign. Remember: consistency is sexy. Let's repeat: Ghosting, breadcrumbing, hot-and-cold behavior? Not the vibe. You’re Not Just Projecting the Potential This one’s hard—especially when you want  to vibe so severely that you ignore the reality. Ask yourself: Are you connecting with who they are  or with whom you hope they’ll become ? Don’t fall in love with potential. Post-divorce, you deserve real, reciprocal energy—not a project. NO, projects needed. Your Gut Knows Before Your Head Does Here’s the truth: your body knows before your brain can explain it. If something feels off, it probably is. And if something feels easy, fun, and aligned ? That’s a vibe. Trust that gut. Post-divorce intuition is powerful. You earned that superpower through every tear, therapy session, and solo night when you chose peace over chaos. The Bottom Line: A Vibe is a Two-Way Frequency It’s not about impressing or performing. It’s about being your whole, beautiful, complicated self—and seeing if someone meets you there. Vibing isn’t just butterflies or banter; feeling emotionally safe, mutually seen, and excited for what’s next. And when do you feel that? That’s not just a vibe. That’s a connection . Dating after divorce isn’t about proving your worth. It’s about protecting your peace.  If you’re not vibing, you don’t owe anyone anything but your honesty. Keep showing up as yourself—because your  vibe will attract your people. And they’ll know exactly how lucky they are to find you. Are you vibing with someone? We want to know.

Let’s be real: we’ve all done it. We’ve stayed too long, ignored red flags, excused terrible behavior, or tried to fix someone who didn’t want to be fixed. And if you’re reading this, chances are you’ve already walked through the fire of a relationship that didn’t serve you—and came out stronger (and maybe a little scared). So why does the urge to settle still creep in after all that? Because habits are hard to break. Especially when they’re wrapped up in what feels familiar—comfort, validation, or the desire not to be alone. But here’s the thing: familiar doesn’t always mean healthy . And just because you survived the last relationship doesn’t mean you should settle for another version of the same thing. Breaking Old Patterns Starts With You It’s not just about who you choose—it’s about who you are when you choose them. If you’re still operating from fear, loneliness, or low self-worth, you’re more likely to recreate the dynamics you’ve already outgrown. This time, it’s different— because you’re different . Here’s what breaking the cycle looks like: You don’t chase clarity.  You wait for consistency. You don’t make excuses.  You observe patterns. You don’t shrink to fit.  You expand and expect someone who can meet you there. You don’t settle for love that comes in pieces.  You wait for the kind that feels whole. Settling Is a Silent Sabotage It doesn’t happen all at once. It sneaks in when you say, “It’s not that bad” or “Maybe this is just how love is.” But you know better now. Love isn’t supposed to hurt more than it heals. It’s not supposed to dim your light or make you question your worth. You’ve already done the hard thing—letting go of what wasn’t right. So don’t stop there. Do the brave  thing: wait for what is. Your Next Relationship Should Feel Like Growth, Not a Compromise And when it comes, it won’t feel like settling. It’ll feel like peace. Like coming home to yourself. Like finally understanding why nothing else worked—because this, this , was what you were meant for. Do you want to share your story about breaking old patterns? Let’s talk.💬 Drop it in the comments or DM @DivorceeDish – we’re in this together. #DivorceeDish #DontSettle #BreakThePattern #DivorceRecovery #SelfWorth

You remember, or at least a lot of us do. It is the epic hit by the Gin Blossoms, "Hey Jealousy. " It was and is a great jam to blast while thinking of relationships and just to bust out in song. However, as we go through various relationships, divorce, and more, we realize jealousy is not healthy for you, nor will it help you heal. Whether it’s your ex flaunting their new relationship on social media, your friend's third engagement ring or even that stranger's perfectly filtered beach vacay pics—you are not  behind. You are not  lacking. You are not in a competition. You must remember this and focus on your life. Jealousy is a Distraction Jealousy takes your attention off your life and places it on someone else’s highlight reel. That’s the energy you could use to fall in love with yourself, book a trip, start a passion project, or—let’s be honest—binge-watch something deliciously trashy  without guilt. Your story is unfolding exactly how it’s supposed to. It doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s. Someone else's engagement doesn't cancel your growth, and their curated joy doesn't erase your real healing. The Truth About Their “Perfect Life” Spoiler alert: what you’re seeing is curated. The matching outfits, the “surprise” proposal, the smiling selfies? That’s the surface. You don't know what’s happening when the camera’s off. You know what’s real? You. The fact that you’ve made it through heartbreak, divorce, and nights that felt longer than your marriage—that's badass. You’re not in a race. You’re in a revival . Jealousy vs. Inspiration Instead of letting that pang of jealousy fester, flip it. What are you craving when you feel jealous? Love? Adventure? Confidence? Take that signal as a nudge , not a punishment. Channel it into action. Book that solo dinner reservation. Say yes to the blind date. Take salsa lessons (yes, even if you have two left feet). You Already Have the Sauce Girl, you’ve got it. The vibe. The resilience. The humor. The you -ness that nobody else can replicate. And if someone doesn’t see that? Let them keep scrolling. Being jealous is like drinking expired milk—unnecessary, bad for your soul, and just... ew. Instead, wake up every morning knowing you don’t need to keep up ; you just need to keep going . So Say It With Me: Hey, jealousy ...You can sit this one out; let me learn not to be jealous and embrace my world daily.

We wrote about the Let Them Theory last week regarding life and divorce —the idea that when someone shows you who they are or what they want (or don’t want), you let them.  Let them go. Let them stay. Let them choose. Let them walk away. Let them reveal themselves. But after you let them , what’s next? Let me. The next step in healing and thriving is reclaiming your power with two simple but profound words: Let me. Let me choose myself, let me feel this fully, let me move forward, and let me build the life I deserve. Too often, in the aftermath of heartbreak, divorce, or disappointment, we get stuck in the reaction phase. We obsess over what they  did, said, and chose. But once we’ve let them be who they are, we can shift the focus back to ourselves—where it belongs. This isn’t selfish. This is survival. More than that, it’s transformation. Let me heal. You don’t need permission to grieve or to take your time. Your timeline and emotions are valid. Let yourself cry, laugh, scream, binge-watch terrible TV, or journal your heart out. Whatever healing looks like for you, let you do it . Let me grow. You are not the same person you were before the divorce—or even during it. That’s a good thing. Let yourself evolve. Take the class. Book the solo trip. Join the gym. Find a therapist. Try something new. Your growth is your responsibility and your opportunity. Let me love myself better. After spending so long putting energy into someone else or a version of love that didn’t love you back the right way, it’s time to redirect that love inward. What makes you feel alive, at peace, worthy, and confident? Let yourself go there.  Give yourself what you’ve been waiting for others to give you. Let me decide what’s next. This is your plot twist moment. It's not the end—just the beginning of a new chapter. And you’re the author. Let yourself reimagine what life can look like. It may not be what you once planned, but it can be even better. Here’s your reminder, Divorcee: You let them walk. Now, let you rise. The let-me mindset is where the power returns. So go ahead—let them, but more importantly, allow yourself. How will you implement this in your life? Remember, the most important person is you; before you take care of others, you let yourself heal. xoxo Erin Learn more about Mel Robbins and her inspiration here: https://www.melrobbins.com/

A worldwide theory has been gaining traction, particularly among women who value their peace over proving a point. It’s known as the “Let Them” Theory , and if you’ve experienced a divorce (or, let’s be honest, even a messy breakup), this might just become your new mantra. Book by Mel & Sawyer Robbins I have been practicing controlling the controllables and letting the rest go. Many people judge you before, during, and after divorce. Many have opinions; maybe I am emotional, have an open heart, and crave love. I want someone to love me for who I am, and if they can’t, let them, then let me.   The Let Them Theory is simple: If they want to leave, let them. If they choose to speak poorly of you, let them. If they decide to ignore you, exclude you, misunderstand your intentions, or misrepresent your story, let them. This isn't about giving up. It’s about letting go. Divorce taught me to stop chasing closure. However, I still want it, but I need to let them go. It’s so hard, and I recently messed up by trying not to let them go. After my divorce and subsequent dating experiences, I realized how much time I had spent managing  other people’s perceptions—explaining myself, defending my choices, and correcting the narrative.   So, exhausting, right? The Let Them Theory reminded me that peace doesn’t come from being understood by everyone; instead, it arises from being true to yourself . If your ex is dating someone new and thriving, let them. If you feel that ride-or-die friends gradually fade away, let them. If others criticize your healing journey, parenting style, or new dating life, just let them be . Their opinions don’t pay your bills. They don’t tuck your kids in at night. And they certainly don’t get to dictate how you heal. Control Is a Myth; Peace Is a Choice Divorce fractures your world and shatters your heart into a million pieces. Amidst the chaos, we strive to regain control. But here’s the truth: control is a comforting illusion. The harder you try to manage how others act, think, or feel, the more exhausted you become. The Let Them Theory is your permission slip to stop trying. Allow them to be who they are. Let them show their true selves. Let them go if that’s what they intend to do anyway. While they do whatever they intend to do, you concentrate on yourself . Let Them… So, You Can Be Free The Let Them Theory isn’t about bitterness or indifference. It’s about choosing yourself : your joy, your healing, your clarity, and your growth. It’s about realizing that what people do reflects them —not you . So let them walk away if they need to. Let them underestimate you. Let them believe whatever helps them feel better. While they’re being themselves , you’re here being the version of you  that this next chapter deserves—calm, unbothered, and completely free. What about you?  Have you adopted the Let Them Theory in your post-divorce life? Please share your thoughts in the comments or slide them into my DMs. Let’s discuss reclaiming peace on our terms. 💬 If you haven't heard of this theory, I encourage you to explore https://www.melrobbins.com/ —you can buy the book there. I listened to it on #audible, and much of what Robbins discussed resonated with my current experiences...so let them. #DivorceeDish #LetThemTheory #HealingAfterDivorce #PeaceOverDrama #AlmostUnbotheredAndThriving #youdeservelove #lovewillcome